Having a Brain Injury Was Never the Plan!
By Barbara Webster and The Amazing Framingham Brain Injury Survivor Support Group of The Brain Injury Assoc. of Massachusetts
I never thought . . .
Life could change so easily and so drastically from an “invisible” injury.
A brain injury could result from cancer treatments.
It would take so long and be so difficult.
People would treat me differently.
One can “look great” but be a total disaster inside.
Everything, even doing the simplest things, would be so hard.
My professional career would end.
I would be so miserable without my career.
I’d lose control of my income at such an early age.
The losses would penetrate every area of my life.
I’d change unintentionally.
I wouldn’t be able to think.
I would face a different me.
I’d be unable to depend on myself consistently.
I’d have a hard time expressing myself or understanding what was said.
I’d lose control of my emotions, laugh or cry spontaneously.
I could lose control and become a “Tazmanian Devil”, without warning.
I’d lose the ability to do the things I’m passionate about.
I’d cling to some basic abilities, like driving.
I’d lose the ability to enjoy to social events.
It would affect my marriage.
My family wouldn’t understand.
I’d lose “friends”.
Life would never be like it was.
I could feel like I was going crazy, hopeless and want to die.
I would have to create a new “self”.
I’d find such great joy in accomplishing the simplest things.
I wish I’d known . . .
There would be so many others like me.
How much progress I could make.
That I would feel better, eventually.
I’d find many alternate ways to get through the days.
How strong I could be.
I’d be able to laugh again.
I’d be accepted once again.
I could forgive myself.
A brain injury could ultimately change the course of my life for the better in many ways.
We invite you to add your thoughts . . .
If you like this piece you might also like: “What Brain Injury Survivors Want You to Know”, featured in Barbara’s book: Lost and Found, a Survivor’s Guide for Reconstructing Life After a Brain Injury, Lash Publishing and on brainline.org.